Tag: Tony Robbins human needs
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At the ACON Foundation, we believe that understanding your human needs is the key to healing from narcissistic abuse. Every action we take — healthy or unhealthy — is an attempt to meet one of six universal needs, according to Anthony Robbins. These “6 human needs” are: Certainty, Uncertainty/Variety, Significance, Love/Connection, Growth, Contribution. For Adult…
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Contribution is the need to give beyond yourself — but ACONs were forced to give without receiving. In narcissistic families, children often carried adult responsibilities or gave endlessly to maintain peace. Healing means learning to contribute from fullness, not emptiness, and discovering the joy of service that doesn’t drain you. The sixth human need is…
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Growth is a universal need — but narcissistic families punished it. Many ACONs were shamed for independence or self-discovery. Healing means reclaiming growth as a safe, joyful process of becoming who you really are — not who your family demanded you to be. The fifth human need is growth — the desire to expand, learn,…
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Love is a core human need — but narcissistic families replaced it with control. ACONs often grew up mistaking conditional love, manipulation, or trauma bonds for real connection. Healing means relearning what safe love feels like, and slowly building circles of belonging that honor who you are. The fourth human need is love and connection…
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Everyone needs to feel important — but narcissistic families tie worth to performance. For ACONs, significance often meant being perfect, obedient, or useful. This creates lifelong perfectionism and shame. Healing means learning that you matter simply for existing — not for what you do. The third human need is significance — the desire to feel…
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We all need variety — but ACONs often mistake chaos for excitement. In narcissistic families, “variety” came through drama, crisis, and unpredictability. As adults, many survivors unconsciously seek chaos because it feels familiar. Healing means learning to welcome change in healthy, safe, and creative ways. Variety is the spice of life. All humans crave change,…
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Certainty is the need to feel safe, secure, and stable — but ACONs were taught the opposite. Growing up in narcissistic families means living in unpredictability: moods shifting without warning, rules changing daily, safety always uncertain. Healing requires learning how to build healthy certainty — not through control or fear, but through steady routines, safe…
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All human behavior is driven by six needs — but in narcissistic families, they’re twisted. Certainty, variety, significance, love/connection, growth, and contribution: these are universal. In healthy families, they’re met safely. In narcissistic families, ACONs are forced to meet them through survival roles — leading to shame, anxiety, and trauma bonds. Healing means reclaiming these…