By ACON Foundation
1. The Soul Lost in Third Person
Many of us move through life as if we’re watching it from outside ourselves — not fully living it. It’s as if the “I” within us has drifted, leaving behind only a narrator who describes what’s happening but no longer feels it.
“And I have become … Comfortably Numb” – Pink Floyd.
This is what ancient traditions call soul loss — the quiet exile of our living essence.
In psychology, Carl Jung described this as the split between the ego and the Self.
In Scripture, it echoes Christ’s warning:
“What does it profit a man to gain the whole world, but lose his own soul?”
In trauma language, it’s called dissociation — being here, but not here. When the soul is gone, we live in third-person perspective — constantly observing, analyzing, managing. We stop being and start performing. We seek external validation because we’ve lost that inner witness — sitting in your Creator’s arms knowing: “You are loved.”
This becomes a trauma to living inside ourselves. Our own brains protect us from first-person experience because that’s where the pain once began. When we are always feeling “Comfortably Numb”, it is because we have developed a sort of PTSD to living in first-person perspective —- and that has us trying to tend to our inner needs, from an outside vantage point. It is futile. It is literally Hell.
2. Disconnection from God — The Technical Side
When the inner light (the soul) withdraws, what remains is intellect and instinct — the head and the gut, but not the heart. Many traditions describe this as a disconnection from Source:
- In the Bible, God “withdraws His spirit,” and man becomes dust again.
- In Jungian terms, the Self — the organizing center of the psyche — is obscured by ego’s illusions.
- In Eastern philosophy, it’s when the mind dominates the spirit, and the Tao no longer flows freely.
- In Maslow’s hierarchy, it’s when energy gets trapped in survival needs — control, fear, approval — instead of ascending to self-actualization.
Disconnection doesn’t mean God abandons us — it means we stop receiving.
Like a radio detuned from its station, the signal is still broadcasting, but we’re no longer aligned to hear it.
It literally hurts to stand inside ourselves. 🙁
3. Why We Behave “Badly” When Lost
Even in disconnection, every action — even destructive ones — is still trying to achieve something good. This is the key to understanding compassion and forgiveness.
Tony Robbins’ Six Human Needs
- Certainty / Safety
- Uncertainty / Variety
- Significance
- Connection / Love
- Growth
- Contribution
Every behavior attempts to meet one or more of these needs, even negative behaviours such as Manipulation, addiction, or rage — understand that these are MALADAPTIVE ways to achieve what was once missing. Awareness of this allows us to consciously upgrade our needs — moving from survival/brain-based to soul/heart-based living. This is the move back to how things were when we were born: Sitting comfortably within ourselves in first-person perspective, or as the Bible may say: “With God”.
One way to get more comfortable living in first-person perspective is by doing what shamans call soul retrieval — returning to the points in our timeline where trauma caused fragmentation, and inviting our lost energy back. Each retrieval makes it easier to live from first-person perspective again — calmly, inside ourselves, with God. What you do is go back to the points in your life which stand out in your mind, “where something feels wrong”. Go back there and allow yourself to accept that moment, because it can never be changed. Allow yourself to run through your emotions about it, and try to get comfortable at that spot and ask your Souls to reintegrate back into you at that moment. It will take alot of time for people who have had many rough moments in life, but eventually it will purify your existence leading all the way until RIGHT NOW. And from there, you can comfortably regain control of “the temple of God” as the Bible puts it — or more simply: “You”. YOU SHALL BE WHOLE AGAIN!
“Deny yourself,” Jesus said of intrusive thoughts from the mind. To be able to see the difference, Trace the pain. Then welcome the lost parts home.
The brain may try to stay in control — but peace and healing come only by sitting once more in the seat of your own ship.
4. Upgrading the Six Human Needs
We can’t stop needing — but we can change how we fulfill those needs. That’s the shift from unconscious reaction to conscious creation.
| Need | Old (Brain-Based / 3rd Person) | New (Soul-Based / 1st Person) |
|---|---|---|
| Certainty | Control, perfectionism, fear | Faith, self-trust, empathy, love |
| Uncertainty | Chaos, risk, drama | Curiosity, growth, gratitude, wonder |
| Significance | Ego validation, negative impact | Meaningful impact, authenticity |
| Connection | Codependency, unhealthy bonds | Mutual empathy, universal love |
| Growth | Escaping pain | Following your soul’s purpose |
| Contribution | People-pleasing, hollow giving | Authentic service that uplifts |
Even small shifts matter. Each one brings the quiet hum of the soul’s return. You are still the person you always were; perfectly Created, timeless, and an integral part of existence. To be able to remain inside yourself, you have to be able to deal with your own actions, and be happy about them. That is what “upgrading how we get our human needs” is all about. Only we can decide what is well enough to innocently exist as, without exile “from Heaven”, which is when a person is living within himself, in first-person perspective.
“Now I see that I will never find the light unless, like the candle, I am my own fuel — consuming myself.”
— Bruce Lee
5. Becoming Your Own Fuel
Napoleon Hill wrote in Think and Grow Rich: “When two or more minds unite in harmony, they create a third mind — a Mastermind Alliance.”
At ACON, we call this the Healing Mind Alliance — the living field that emerges when souls validate each other through empathy. Here, the lost mind becomes the living mind. This is the small piece that others can help us with, but before we can find our teacher, we must do the best we can as students. That requires being conscious of how we are getting our human needs, because that is truly what we consist of.
“Once the Student is Ready, the Teacher shall present himself”. ACON Foundation will help ACONs work together to fill in some of the blanks from having a “challenging” family, but much of the journey belongs to the things we do “in front of God” aka while in first-person perspective.
Our upcoming Fathering Program (on the ACON App) will help ACONs connect through this principle — loving each other through small roadblocks, using empathy and blessing to lift one another. AI will “vet” people and link them up in pairs or more, so that they can provide tiny amounts of validation to each other, which is a seriously missing element for ACONs. This will NOT be about people pulling each other down, but instead people letting the universe know that “This person’s dreams and goals and passions matter!”. This is done naturally in normal families with simple discussion and caring, but for ACONs, we never had these BLESSINGS from others… And THAT is part of why our lives have been so hard … It has literally been US vs. THE WORLD.
“You’re nobody ’til somebody loves you” — Frank Sinatra.
“Now I see that I will never find the light unless, like the candle, I am my own fuel.” — Bruce Lee
6. From Lost Mind to Healing Mind
When we live soullessly, we become part of the collective lost mind — people acting without heart, echoing pain they never healed. There are so many people stuck on the outside of themselves, it starts to “feel like family”, but when the ingredients are only self serving, nobody is going to profit. It’s like crabs in a barrel: When one starts to climb out, the others grab him and pull him back in! But when one person retrieves their soul, they reconnect not only to themselves but to the living field of life. From there, that person can help others, because he “loves himself” 🙂
“It’s as if the universe breathes them back in.”
They rediscover heaven — maybe not as a place, but as a state of perception. This is what ACON Foundation seeks: to help everyone live peacefully within their Mind, Body, and Soul.
7. The Return to the Father Within
When we reconnect with our soul, we are not merely healed — we are re-rooted. We are “born again” — not necessarily into religion, but into wholeness. When we have all our souls, we are what the Bible called “Holy”. That is where the true power lies.
To live with soul is to live in first-person presence — curious, grateful, alive. To live without soul is to exist only in the mind’s lens — analytical, defensive, apart.
“Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.”
Those stuck outside themselves truly don’t — they live in the land of lost perspective.
8. Paradise Lost and Found: A Reflection from Genesis
“Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they knew that they were naked.” — Genesis 3:7
In Genesis, the fall can be seen as the moment humanity shifts from first-person to third-person perspective — from being to observing. Before eating from the Tree of Knowledge, Adam and Eve walked with God in direct awareness — naked and unashamed. After tasting the fruit, they saw themselves from the outside. Paradise was lost — not by location, but by perception.
9. A Final Reflection
We don’t find God by escaping ourselves. We find God by becoming fully human — fully here.
Like how a person’s soul never tarnishes, the soul is never truly gone. It waits where you left it — in your last act of love before the world made you afraid to love again. Search your timeline, return to where it hurts, and welcome yourself home.
Heaven isn’t far away — it’s one perspective shift closer.
Thank you for your witness upon this Earth, dear brothers and sisters.
ACON Foundation wishes you a wonderful journey toward wholeness.
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